you doubtless are correct in thinking that you complicated your problems considerably by refusing to register for military service at a time when nobody asked you to do so.She's mad at him. I get it. I'd be mad too. Here's a boy picking ALL the wrong times to stand by his principles. But then, how can you be mad at him for that? I will say, Opa has been lucky and privileged to get this far in his fight against the Nazis without having to compromise his principles. Even his story about the teacher who allowed him to come to school and refuse to give the Nazi salute - honestly- that was so dangerous and probably not worth it. I am someone who HATES compromising my principles (and honestly have never really been forced to make that choice), but even I know at some point, when the stakes are this high- you do the secret handshake and then get out of dodge. Opa hasn't made that sacrifice yet, and now he's lost a perfectly good affidavit. I suppose that would count as the first thing he has lost by standing firm in is principles, but Annelise definitely does not think it was worth it. I was kind of surprised by her curtness, but I think she is just done. She's not going to sugar coat it for this kid. Stakes are high, things are grim, and compromises may need to happen.
Then she switches back to pleasantries (in whiplash) to comment on how glad she is that he likes school.
For Opa, this was not a fun letter. His new strategy is to buy his mom time by telling the Berlin folks he's working on something that is practically impossible for him to accomplish. In the meantime, if Annelise has anything to say about it- he needs to refrain from making strong decisions that nobody asked him to make.