Saturday, May 16, 2026

October 22, 1944: Worst Kept Secret

 

Letter from Opa to Grandmother October 22, 1944

October 22, 1944
My Darling,

Last night I tried to call you, but you weren't home; I really didn't think you would be home on Saturday night, but I tried it anyhow. I'll try again today. I am going to use the five bucks you sent me for long-distance calls, unless you suggest better means of disposal. 

I am glad you got through the doctor's office without much embarrassment, and that you have the diaphragm all fixed. Does that finish up your trips to the doctor for the time being. I bet the bill is nothing to sniff at. By the way, if you have something real the matter with you, remember that we can get cheaper rates, or aid in paying the doctor bill, through the Red Cross. If you insist on having those twins, better get them now and have Uncle Sam pay for them.

No passes will be given till next week, and no weekend passes till the week after that, so the first one I can possibly get will be the weekend of November 5/6 unless they change things back again.

Today, I have been in the Army exactly one month, and my only wish is that there won't be many returns. It isn't that I don't like the Army but I would prefer to have only one roommate, and that one should be of different type and have my last name.

I don't know what to do about my stuff in St. John. I shall wait just a little longer, and then send a registered letter, and, if that won't do any good, take some action. 

Yesterday has been a very easy day. In the morning, I went to the dentist's who gave me two more fillings and asked me to come back for more yet on Monday. I am certainly glad I didn't go to the dentist earlier; think of all the money I am saving. In the afternoon, we did absolutely nothing except seeing movies. Most of them rather dull. The much advertised Parade did not go off, just as I expected. We did have personal inspection, though, of our uniforms, bunks, etc. Except for a belt which is three inches too long, the officers found nothing wrong with me. He didn't look very hard.

We were issued some more clothing, and this time I wasn't as lucky as last time. My fatigues have trousers which are four inches too short and two inches too wide around the waist, while the blouse goes into severe strains and threatens to burst every time I breathe in. Its sleeves are only two inches too short. Both blouse and trousers are covered with a great multitude of patches. The mackinall has an air corps insignia on it, which makes my uniform all-inclusive: infantry cap braid, General-Staff shoulder buttons, cavalry leggings, and a Signal Corps training. We also were issued gas masks and shall soon start gas training.

Well, I’ll quit for awhile and continue writing after mail call. Maybe your package gets here today; I know your letter will!


It’s afternoon now. I just put in a phone call for you, but don’t expect to get you till later in the evening. I am waiting for Johnny to get here; we are going to play some chess; I’ll probably get beaten again. It’s awfully nice outside; warm and sunny; I only hope that we are going to have a day like this two weeks from now. Lots of boys have their wives here at the Service Club today; I wished I did too. I’ll ask Uncle Sam to give me a raise; then, I’ll have you come down here every Sunday.

         

Did you get to listen to Roosevelt’s speech last night? I didn’t, but I read the text of it in this morning’s paper. After his last two mediocre outlets, I think he was up to par again; this one was well organized, not too much campaigning, but yet attacking each one of Dewey’s points. It was clever of him to talk before the Foreign Policy Association, for this way no one expected him to cover any domestic issues. 

         

It’s getting toward eight now, and I am finishing this letter while Johnnie is on the main floor, dancing. I guess he thinks I am silly for not dancing, but I wouldn’t want you to go to a U.S.O. dance, and also I would get no enjoyment out of dancing when you aren’t here. 

         

Your voice still clings in my ear from the phone call, darling. I guess it doesn’t matter what we talk about as long as we can hear each other. Einstein’s theory of relativity is true: three minutes of calesthenics are longer then three minutes of talking to you! Maybe I shouldn’t call you so often, for it makes me so much more lonesome for you.

         

As usually, I was right: Johnnie did beat me in the chess games. After I finally got your call through, we ate dinner in the Cafeteria, a pretty good dinner at that. The meal was spoiled a little when one of the fellows came up to sit by us and entertained (?) us by a detailed account of how the G.I. saltpeter affected him and how he found out about it last night. We finally got rid of him, though, and continued our subject of conversation second in frequency: Mathematics. (The one first in frequency starts with the same two letters.) 

         

I am having a little problem at hand: one of the boys in our company, a kid of maybe nineteen years of age, found out where I was born and has developed a clear interest in that place and conditions there. His interest is sincere and probably very laudable, but the guy turns into being a darn nuisance. He sticks around me at every possible and impossible opportunity and assaults me with a miraculous barrage of more or less silly questions. I have used all ways I could think of to show him his undesiredness in a subtle way but no, he won’t catch. After ignoring him, giving him silly answers, and answering in a way which his 60-IQ mind won’t grasp didn’t work, I am afraid I shall have to come out and tell him that he is a (-../.-/--/-.) nuisance. (Note – the morse code in the parenthesis says DAMN)

           

As often before, Johnny and I have indulged in postwar projects. If we stay here, we get a 200-dollar discharge pay; after having been overseas, it will be $300. (I hope I get 200.) It might be a good idea to get wounded in heroic action, which would give us the Purple Heart plus $75 as a monthly pension. With that as a start, we decided to go to South America, buy, borrow, or steal a mansion and live there as princes for two years. After getting tired of being Royal Highnesses, we return to the States, use the money we have saved (don’t ask: saved from what?) to buy a place in California. Johnny will enter photography while I shall be teaching in college. After our first millions have been made by intelligent land and oil speculations, we shall engage in world-wide pleasure travelling. Returning from this, we will write a book each per country visited, (as you know, residence of one week entitles us to and gives us sufficient background for being completely qualified and informed about social, linguistic, commercial, educational, religious, political, geological, and culinary problem) and then retire for the rest of our lives. Agreed? 

         

Johnny urges me to quit so we can go to the show. 

         

This is Monday morning. The show lasted till eleven o’clock and, in order to make bed check, I had to hurry home and couldn’t finish this.  

         

Honey, we can stay together at the Guest House here as long as I have a pass. Only one thing wrong with that place: they have army beds. We’ll manage, though. 

         

Today, I’m going to get your package, I hope. It doesn’t matter that you didn’t send my underwear yet. On the contrary, for that I’m going to get another package!

         

This morning, some of us start going to specialist schools. Since neither radio repair nor radar has been called yet, I do not fall under that category. Three of us who don’t go will probably have drill instead. There is some talk that they are going to cut our basic to five weeks. That won’t be bad: one week earlier through basic means a week earlier overseas, which means that the war will end a week earlier, for, naturally, they can’t win the war without me. 

         

How is Skunkie? Has he ever inquired about me? I agree that I owe him a letter, but he hasn’t thanked us yet for sleeping (?) with him in my last night as bachelor, so I am insulted.

         

Bibi, darling, and write me a long letter. 

 

Love, 

Tom

 

One month in the army. I know I just said it- but it feels a lot longer. Opa’s thoughts are on post-military adventures, and to be honest, part of me is wishing he had achieved the realistic part of the scenario. Teaching at a college and traveling. He and grandmother traveled quite a bit during their marriage, so that part they did. Instead of Professor Doeppner, Opa became Colonel Doeppner. What would my life be like if it were the former? Would I exist? Maybe not. Probably not. 

There was something really odd about this letter- Opa didn’t name that “place” he was born (Berlin). I’m not sure what benefit it would be for him to censor his letters. It certainly couldn’t have been a secret to anyone, his German accent was distinct his entire life. Who is reading his mail? The Army already knows everything about him. Unless he lied? I doubt it. 

My best guess is he was so tired of answering questions about it that he didn’t even want to mention it in the letter. I feel bad for the annoying guy- I’m sure he meant well- but he sounds like he did not understand social cues. It’s good to remember that we’re not entitled to everyone’s story, no matter how fascinating we find it. This is harder to accept than it sounds. I wonder what “silly” questions the kid had.

I can’t remember who Johnny is, a good friend of Opa’s who likes math? I’m glad they had each other. I went to a work outing yesterday at my new job (started Jan 2026) and it was awkward at first because I don’t know people very well. One woman took me under her wing and asked me questions (not silly ones) and introduced me around. I’ve been telling my sisters that I’m still looking for that really witty work-friend. The kind you can text snarky things to. I’ve got a couple contenders, time will tell! 

Last thought: does Opa have any teeth without cavities?!